About Me

Virtual Therapeutic Services in North Carolina —

My resume tells a story in itself, a journey of trusting the process:

My background is… diverse. The Catalyst: The Courage to Stand Tall

I spent over a decade as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Addictions Specialist, trained to be a "mirror"—to reflect, hold space, and stay neutral. My career was built in high-pressure settings: correctional facilities, inpatient psychiatric hospitals, and residential recovery programs. I helped people find their voices while I was still trying to find my own posture as a behavioral healthcare provider.

For a long time, I operated from a place of "avoidance with better branding." I was the tallest person in the room but felt the smallest, and my body began to match my internal energy—slouched shoulders and rolls that tried to hide my presence. Then came the "controlled demolition": a toxic business partnership that cost me everything financially but returned to me my integrity. I realized then that neutrality wasn’t helping my clients win; it was just helping them cope. I had to stop being a mirror and start being a model.

The Philosophy: RightSizing the Human Experience

This realization led to the birth of RightSize Perspective—the optimization of the human experience. It isn’t about a clothing size or a number on a scale; it’s about clearing the emotional bias that keeps us "slouching" in rooms where we were meant to lead.

As a plus-size fashion model, I use my physical stature as a literal clinical intervention. My presence triggers biases and perceptions, creating a safe but brave space for others to confront their own. I don’t just teach boundaries; I’ve paid the bill to maintain them. I don’t just talk about body neutrality; I live it in an industry designed to critique it.

The Mission: Empowered Recovery

Today, as a Compassionate Disruptor, I’ve evolved my practice beyond traditional motivational interviewing. I challenge my clients to take the driver’s seat of their own lives with intention. Through the Fresh Perspective Program and the SELF CARE Framework, I teach that recovery is a belief system—one nourished through our relationship with ourselves and the world around us.

My work is deeply personal because I believe that professional development must start with clinicians doing their own work. I advocate for Provider Health, encouraging fellow helpers and caretakers to prioritize their own wellness as the ethical backbone of their practice. Because you cannot lead someone to a place of courage if you are still hiding from your own.

If you want to stick around and know more about where my perspective comes from, keep reading!

My story starts in Portsmouth, New Hampshire. I was raised a Northerner and simmered in the South.

I moved to North Carolina after graduating high school with a very average GPA. I didn’t know I was struggling with undiagnosed ADD, depression, and anxiety.

I went on to study at East Carolina University in Greenville, NC where I received my Bachelor’s in Social Work, a minor in psychology (2011), and later my Master’s in Clinical Social Work, specializing in Addiction Counseling (2014).

I have been practicing clinical social work since 2014 - whoa, time flies! I have gathered experience in an array of clinical settings, from residential substance abuse treatment for women with children, to inpatient detox and psychiatric stabilization, to forensic mental health with correctional populations, and finally, realizing my place in private practice and developing programming to make recovery education more relatable and applicable for high stress settings.

It was in the last few years, learning how to manage my own life and business, that I put those experiences into action and started practicing what I preach (aka my RightSize Perspective). RSP is my journey and take on how to fill the gaps in recovery from mental health and addiction.

I found a balance between taking care of myself and taking care of other people. Today it is an approved continuing education program for professionals to learn more about building awareness from the inside out, and accountability to caring for the provider first so the dependent (client, child, employee, etc) will benefit.

My goal in sharing my story is to help inspire those new providers coming into the field of social work, any helping professional, or any provider in society, to understand how they can prioritize caring for themselves while doing the service work that is very needed in this world. I may not have it all figured out, but I have realized the balance that is needed to build the mind, body, and spirit of other people, must start with the individual. Instead of practicing just with our clients, I advocate for the individual practice of what we preach to others. I consider it the ethical backbone and best practice. We help people do hard things, so we must learn that we are capable of those hard things ourselves.

My ongoing growth and recovery from my own codependent upbringing have resulted in a life transformation (read more on the RSP page). I have been successful in believing that it is possible to cultivate change in difficult situations, even when we are burnt out. It is a delicate process, but once I experienced it, I cannot unknow it.

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I remind myself every day that Without failure, there is no healing. Without rupture, there is no repair. Without imbalance, there is no balance. Without fear, there is no faith.

Thank you for visiting my website. Please feel free to ask questions, poke around, and figure out what it means for you to be here connecting with me.

Please let me know how I can best support you in your journey of recovery.

My Journey

My story will eventually be a book!

SO until then, let me give you the run down to bring y’all up to speed…

This is me as of Jan 2021 <glance right, mobile glace Up>

Do you see her?! Can we just take her in for a second!?

That blue is just, Whoa…

Ok, so moving on, this was my first professional photoshoot. Naively, I thought I had evolved to a point in my life where I was “good”. Ha! Life had something else for me.

Who wore it better?

Yep, that is the same dress!

May 2017

Jan 2021

In May of 2017, I was nearing the unhealthiest place in my life.

What did that look like? Well, the scale said 389lbs. My voice spoke “I’m doing great!”. My spirit was dull. My heart was guarded. And GLP-1’s didn’t really exist yet.

I hid behind my complimenting color ONLY wardrobe, a sarcastic “sense of humor” (aka passively processing my lack of emotional awareness and deflecting away from my emotional stagnancy) all while I dove headfirst into my education and then a full-time career!

Change?! You want me to do what?! Ain’t no one got time for fixing something not broken…

I’m happy enough! I’m an Amazon. My bones are just big, See my wrist?

I’m supposed to be a Big Beautiful Woman. That’s what men tell me at least…

SKURRRRRRRRRRRRRTT!

Can you tell me what is “OFF” about what you have read?

It’s okay, you have time to scroll up and think what could be so wrong with that I have told you…

Ok, I will tell you.

I have always been my own worst critic but the Sh*T! I said is straight-up triggering ALL my fears and insecurities. Example: being a Big Beautiful girl….friend-zoned or ghosted by who I wanted and desired by those I was not attracted to.

Why is this even important? because every time I said those things, I willingly stepped back into a cycle of unhealthy self-sabotage in SOME area of my life!

Let’s take it back a little bit…

Ever since I was a kid, I have found comfort in food.

Food distracted me through my parents’ divorce, a family pattern of alcoholism, and the loss of my father to cancer when I was 16. I have had family tell me stories about how I was always at the food table…dating back to when I was, like….

*thinks dramatically* THREE year old?!

Many, if not all, of my childhood memories, have food associated with them. I am not entirely sure at what age an innocent love of food turned into a chemical dependency.

At that point (mid to late 90’s) people had no idea how impactful the food and beverages influenced them compared to present day.

One day it’s let’s go get an ice cream cone with Pops, the next it’s Sugar is BLISS to

I NEED something SWEET!

Don’t even mention when I was going thru some emotional shit.

To my parents out there….How do you even handle that as parent? Especially since it has been building itself from a system that you primarily have the most control over? At least I’m not a drug addict?

**shrugs confusingly?**

Anyways, the rest of those reflections will be in my book. Make sure you stay connected to learn how I am NOT resentful of my parents.

I HEALED.

oh ya, look at her!

Keep scrolling

Sept 28, 2021

Can you see a difference between beginning of 2021 and current?

Fast Forward to The Decision

The irony is that I was able to function and keep myself even more distracted from the cyclical depressive episodes and high functioning anxiety.

I became not only chemically imbalanced in my brain (sugar and serotonin), my behaviors were reinforced by a codependent thought process and one HELLA reactive Central Nervous System.

I was trapped in my own chaos.

I chose a career of helping and caring for others — I became a clinical mental health and addictions therapist. Help everyone else before helping myself. Always had someone else’s problems to solve. … over, and over, and over again.

Do yourself a favor right now…

Get used to the word CODEPENDENCY.

It’s not bad. It is required for healthy human relationships.

IN A BALANCED AMOUNT!

What is a balanced amount, you say? I cannot tell you exactly as I do not live your life. But I CAN tell you how it presented in my life.

Leaving ONLY 6-8 semi-conscious hours for myself a DAY with little to no self-respect for my health, low self esteem, lack of awareness, poor personal identity…you get the point? Or should I keep going?

I’ll keep going…

So, now that you have a glimpse into my closet, I can bring you up to speed on how to attain your RightSize Perspective.

Please be patient with me as I am on a mission to Compassionately disrupt the world…

Make sure to add yourself to the email list for upcoming events and information about what I am up to!

Trust me, you will want to be involved!


Inconsistent and ineffective communication of my thoughts and emotions. Scared to disappoint anyone. Fear of being a bad friend. Unable to look at myself naked. Overcompensating my lack of self-efficacy and feelings of shame about being unlovable in the form(s) of procrastination, hypersexuality, and detrimental financial decision-making.

I remember thinking that I was almost 30 years old and hadn’t had many experiences that made me happy. My relationships were short and based on sexual validation; my friendships were based on some very unhealthy lifestyle patterns despite the fun had and memories made… they were unhealthy because I was unhealthy. I had to buy new things to make myself feel better, and honestly, I was over feeling broken and tired.

I was perpetually causing my own problems and I couldn’t blame anyone else….

and then the lightbulb went off…

And so I decided to practice what I preach.

I found my RightSize Perspective.