Hey y’all, there is no shame to my game in saying that I used ChatGBT to get me through this blog post this month. Of course, I’m going to review and add my perspective too!

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a time to shed light on a topic that affects countless individuals around the world. This blog is going to be more about what to do AFTER you make it out of a DV situation. Why? Well, I would rather prepare you for the best possible outcome.

I posted on social media about how to help someone in a DV situation ‘See it here’.  Domestic violence is a harrowing and life-altering experience, but it is also one that many survivors find the strength to overcome. So here is a solid blueprint to follow or share with someone on how survivors can embark on their journey toward healing and progress.

Real quick before we get into it though, my female-only small coaching group (Fresh Perspective) would be a great place to start the healing journey. We will be learning more about these dynamics, learn strategies to apply them, and have a community of accountability to RECOVERY! Ok, just think about it. 😉 OR ask me about other agencies that do this work and provide services!

Section 1: The Aftermath of Domestic Violence
Leaving an abusive relationship can be a daunting task, but it's the first step to a brighter future. After escaping a situation of domestic violence, survivors often experience a mix of emotions, including fear, relief, guilt, and even uncertainty. Understanding these feelings is crucial for moving forward.

• Safety First: Ensure your safety and that of your children, if applicable, by seeking help from local authorities or shelters. Reach out to a domestic violence hotline or a support network to create a safety plan.

• Emotional Healing: Healing takes time, and it's okay to feel a range of emotions. Therapy and support groups can provide a safe space to express and process these feelings.

Section 2: Rebuilding Self-Esteem and Confidence
Domestic violence can shatter a survivor's self-esteem and self-worth. Rebuilding these aspects is a significant part of life after domestic violence.

• Therapy and Counseling: Professional therapists and counselors specialize in helping survivors heal from trauma, build self-esteem, and regain their confidence.

• Self-Care: Prioritize self-care through activities that make you feel good about yourself. This could be as simple as taking a relaxing bath, practicing mindfulness, or engaging in hobbies you once enjoyed.

Section 3: Reconnecting with a Support System
After domestic violence, many survivors feel isolated and disconnected from friends and family. Reconnecting with a support system is essential for rebuilding a fulfilling life.

• Reach Out: Reconnect with friends and family who may have been distant during the abusive relationship. Sharing your experiences and feelings with loved ones can help you rebuild those connections.

• Support Groups: Join local or online support groups for survivors. These communities offer understanding and camaraderie as you navigate life after domestic violence.

Section 4: Legal and Financial Considerations
Survivors often face legal and financial challenges. Understanding and addressing these issues is crucial for a fresh start.

• Legal Aid: Seek legal assistance for restraining orders, divorce proceedings, child custody, or any legal matters related to the abuse. There are organizations that provide free legal aid for domestic violence cases.

• Financial Independence: If the abuser controlled your finances, work on regaining financial independence. Consider seeking employment, financial advice, or government assistance where applicable.

Section 5: Setting New Goals
Creating a vision for the future is a vital part of moving forward after domestic violence.

• Goal Setting: Define short-term and long-term goals for yourself. These could include pursuing education, a new career, or simply finding peace and happiness in daily life.

• Celebrate Successes: As you achieve your goals, no matter how small, take time to celebrate your successes. Recognize your progress and the strength you've shown.

Section 6: Rebuilding Healthy Relationships
Building healthy relationships after domestic violence can be challenging, but it's possible.

• Boundaries: Learn to set and maintain healthy boundaries in relationships. This empowers you to protect yourself and your well-being.

• Trust and Communication: Relearn how to trust and communicate in a safe and open manner. Couples therapy or individual counseling can help with this process.

Life after domestic violence is a journey that takes time and patience. It's about healing, rebuilding, and finding the strength to move forward. Remember, you are not alone, and there is support available! I promise you there are options for you at any stage! At whatever phase of the process you are at, trying to leave or starting healing, as you embark on this journey, know that you have the resilience to create a life filled with hope, happiness, and progress.

Domestic Violence Awareness Month is a reminder that survivors can and do thrive beyond the darkness of abuse.